So yeah I changed the board from PhpBB and XenForo.
It was a lot of work, and I still need to fix incompatibilities within old threads.
But yeah there's a lot more options like alerts (so you actually know when someone replies to you), custom title and little extra bits in the thread editor now.
There's also a better chat, you can make up to 2 rooms for each user, but there's always the default public one too.
Doesn't seem to have a private mini facebook-like chat though, but you can...